shite...I knew that troublemaker comment would get me!!! smile
(I was just trying to be all inclusive)

maybe I just miss being bit in the assets!!! I dont' need to pirate the internet with crawling ants anymore

so the original question again was posed as to how maybe the old timers can help instead of hurt the newbies...and what might be going on when you 1st find yourself here, yes? I forgot though, it was so long ago

MLC or WAS...hmmmmmmm
to me, anyway, it doesn't really matter so much
I thought AJ was in MLC but it turns out he was just a sociopath whistle
but
I handled it the way I handled it because it was ME I was most trying to save
little old me
if it saved my marriage I would have been glad (well that was before I found out about the diagnosis)
in the end it saved me

it actually made me

i grew

past where I had dreamt myself before

into a realm that only touched the imagined world I knew how to dream (without sounding wishy washy)

I have a better, richer, fuller, more compelling and satisfying life than I knew possible.
I feel joy and peace and have a deeper faith, savor life with greater abandon and eagerly ask for more more more

DBing taught me
about me
my depth
my tallness
my soul

taught me to
grab with both hands
laugh with greater adandon
sleep sweeter


grow
learn
save yourself

in the end that is what matters