When wearing or not wearing your wedding ring has become a strategy instead of a sign of your commitment and promises, you know you have a focus problem.
I wear it because it is a sign of my committment and promise. I did not wear it yesterday almost to test "how it felt". Trust me I was not looking nor did i expect a response from her.
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For what it's worth, the MLC'er is typically happy to have us reach a point of peace and acceptance. Removing your ring tells your wife that you have accepted that the marriage is over. That being the case, she probably figures that you're finally coming to grips with her decision.
Interesting point - I did not consider that. It may be what she is looking for but then again...knowing her I also wonder (I know I am not suppose to try and figure her out) if she takes this as a sign that I have given up. In a way part of me has. Thanks for making this point.
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The bigger point I think is that you need to STOP, STOP, STOP, STOP analyzing and looking for positive/negative signs.
Agree - the funny thing is that for the past few days I have really been focusing on the detaching. Obviously I'm not there yet but I know I making progress. This was a little set back for me and I appreciate the reminder to STOP, STOP, STOP.
The hard part is controling the emotion, when for breif moments we seem to "somewhat connect". The interesting thing is that I thought she may have been flirting with me a little bit (commented about my lips, moved closer than usual, etc.) but thank God I did not bite. No cake eating - sorry honey.
The funny thing is that she was drinking at 2PM, which is unlike her. When I commented she said that this is her Friday (she works on Friday). Based on what I've read to date this may have been a little sign of depression, which I understand occurs during the whole process. She also had her headphones on most of the day while she was home. It was a little wierd a little wierd..
I continue with the detach and will definately STOP looking for signs. Although I know that you know that it's tough.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
