How do I expose the affair

[flowmom]

mb, isn't getting your friends to argue against D major pursuing? And isn't it hardening his stance and backing him into a corner? The thing you've got going for you is your H's confusion, and I'm concerned that having your advocates argue for him (your H probably sees it that way) creates a sense of urgency in your H, which isn't going to help you.

The limbo is hard, but remember you have a choice to step back from the drama and tone things down a bit. I don't want to argue against the advice you're getting here, but there is no emergency here unless you create one.