flowmom | need to commit to myself

[flowmom]

When you go, be positive and do not mention any faults, messiness, or lack of childproofing. If you notice any safety issues, write them in an email later and then wait 24 hours to send and decide if they really are.

I'm not worried about that. My children are old enough that they are pretty sensible about safety stuff. H is actually pretty safety-conscious himeself. But I guess you never know!

It will be very painful. Be positive. Think of it as temporary apartment and it will help you get through it.

Ugh. It will be hard. He's put more care and attention into that apartment in the last 2 months than he's ever put into any of our shared homes in the last 15 years. It's so ironic...I think he is finally realizing that you have to create a home, after criticizing and undermining my efforts to do that in our homes (we became polarized on that issue). And he's not stupid. Even he realizes that if he wants a "love nest" there it's going to have to meet a woman's expectations of reasonably clean/pleasant.