As Allen (and my dad) pointed out I have to be very careful with my wording as my husband displays some sociopath behaviors. I have always been emotional in our relationship and I am worried that this letter sounds a little too emotional.
Part of me wants to send this and part of me wants to just ignore him outright and let him think that I have moved on. This is a version of the letter that has a less emotional tone:
Dear Mr. 4luv,
I love you and I married you for life. I want to remain married to you. I am willing and committed to doing what it takes to be the spouse you've always wanted and to address the things that I did wrong in our marriage.
Your recent dating and your past admitted affairs are so painful for me that it will destroy the love I have for you. In order to protect those feelings I must end all contact with you. As soon as you have stopped dating and I can assure that the affairs are over I would love to talk with you about our future. Until that time please respect my wish for no contact.
In an emergency you can reach me through text. Arrangements for seeing children and handling finances can be handled via text or email.
Dear Mr. 4luv,
I love you and I married you for life. I want to remain married to you. I am willing to address the things that I did wrong in our marriage. However, your recent dating and past affairs are hurtful and to protect my feelings for you I will not have contact with you while you are engaging in that activity. When you stop your hurtful activity then we can talk about our future. Until that time please respect my wish to not talk to you.
In an emergency you can reach me through text. Arrangements for seeing children and handling finances can be handled via text or email.
Sincerely, 4luv
Me: 28 H: 32 1st marriage 4 both 1 1/2 year married 2gether for 9 1S: 6months 1stepson: 2yo
