I wish there was a way for me to tell. H is now under his own phone plan and doesn't live at home- no bill comes to the house and I cannot access his account unless I have his phone present. UGH. I am a great PI...but even a great PI cannot work under these conditions.
And again..he works with her. In the past, I shoved a digital recorder in his lunch bag and sent him to work...that is how I learned he was lying to me. I don't have access to TAP him again....and not really sure he would fall for it again..but then again ;-) I am not proud of tapping my H- but it was necessary and the $30 recorder was such a great investment. I still cannot believe he never saw it!! anyway... when he said he wanted to come home..he offered to wear the recorder all day at work...I told him that was ridiculous.
I guess I am trying to time things right. I know I need a transparency plan..I need to let him know what I expect from my H and my M..I just think the timing is very important right now. Maybe this is completely wrong..but I want him to come up with some of the answers on his own... I don't want to have to tell him that I expect my H to be faithful (god)..I want whatever he does to be his idea...so that I don't feel like I am giving him a checklist and he is just going through the motions to appease me.
I know that it is important for me to tell him what my needs are...but I guess right now I want to see what he is made of. Not what I am making him into.
The only thing that is very important right now is that OW is out of the pic. I cannot start any kind of piecing without this in place. Or do you think I should just go for the jugular and lay everything on the table up front like Pearl suggests?
Pearl- when I cancelled MC the other day over text message...he texted me back saying he was on board and wanted to start. I told him I didnt want to start this week..I wasn't ready..he said "well I want you to be ready..so let's wait until next week".
