When wearing or not wearing your wedding ring has become a strategy instead of a sign of your commitment and promises, you know you have a focus problem.
For what it's worth, the MLC'er is typically happy to have us reach a point of peace and acceptance. Removing your ring tells your wife that you have accepted that the marriage is over. That being the case, she probably figures that you're finally coming to grips with her decision.
If you accept, then she can tentatively reach out to you - sort of testing the waters. If you go apeshit on her with "if only" talk, you'll see how quickly she turns the other way.
The bigger point I think is that you need to STOP, STOP, STOP, STOP analyzing and looking for positive/negative signs.
Your wife is driving, and she's driving like one of those crazy 300km/hour european drivers on the autobahn. Are you SURE you want to be riding with her right now? Dang, only if you have a serious pain/death wish.
I know it's hard being in the same house when she has already severed ties. But I also know that you could find a way to handle it if you would STOP, STOP, STOP, STOP working the situation. Don't be looking for positives OR negatives. Stop looking. Turn the other direction.
Eric - step AWAY from the marriage relationship sir!
You've got plenty that you can focus on without devoting time to her and what she's thinking/doing.
School, personal finances, building your relationship with the kids, personal goals/dreams you never tried, activities with friends, etc, etc, etc.
Stay locked on your wife's drama and you are officially on the rollercoaster from hell.
Not a fun ride.
Blessings,
bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
