Next steps

[flowmom]

Write it down for yourself, but not for him.

Aver, have you worked on the detachment exercises?
http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/
scroll down to the steps

Here's where I did step 1
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1950158#Post1950158

and here's where I did step 2-3
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1950915#Post1950915

I might do The Work on the beliefs in the link above.

I think you are ready for this. (((Aver))) Your H might never give you the closure that you want and need. But you can give that to yourself.