One day at a time....

[flowmom]

RW, when we were in MC, the C felt that it wasn't her role to diagnose depression or push that label on H even though it was clearly affecting him and our M. I got the impression that she doesn't believe in AD either. She would say things like, "if you are depressed, that is affecting your M". But she felt that he had to own it himself and decide to do something about it. I'm not sure if I agree with her though. I think that a lot of people seek help for depression because of the feedback that they get from others, not because they internally recognize that they need help.

It sucks if your H's IC is not helping him address the depression in an effective way.

I would handle the depression issue with kids gloves. I really regret how I dealt with it with H. I like the advice in DR about how to deal with depression.

Hard times. But it sounds like you're handling it really well. Listen and validate is totally the way to go. Resisting the urge to fix/manage is totally the way to to go.