lolawar & awest- Great advice. He did actually ask about the brakes last saturday and said that he was worried I could get in an accident and get hurt. So I am just paranoid. Really need to focus on him NOT being the center of my world. Hard though because he was for so long. In a way it kind of feels like it is his way of being in control of the "situation". Whatever!
I did actually get the feeling that he was confused at the beginning of our conversation about why I hadn't called. I am going to continue to let him be the initiator of any contact between us and see how that goes.
My husband hates mind games and I feel like he might think that is what I am doing. However, I don't really have any other options seeing where our relationship is at. Time together would be nice but he comes over and is just so irritable & moody that the time isn't really very nice. When he threatened filing for divorce on Saturday it really was like he wanted me to say something to change his mind. What can I say. I feel like it is all a game to him.
I feel like my only option at this point is to "wait it out" and just keep doing my own thing. I'm not sure that disinterested is the best word either, but I get what you are saying.
I am thinking of finding a book club or something to try and occupy my time and turn the focus of my mind. Do either of you know of any online? Any other suggestions?
M 35, husband 35 M 10 Limbo 9/2009-12/2010 he left for his moms and came home way to many times to count Home 12/2010-present
