MLC - standing by my man

[glamgirl]

Mila I can't say that I did survive, but I am still alive. Most recently my walk with God has made me pull the blinders from my own eyes.

I was so focused on what my h did to me the kids, yada yada yada. What I failed to do was look at my own self and how I was responding everytime my h did something new or bringing up the past.

The BEST advice I can give is to zip the lips. In the whole grand scheme of things does anything really matter. I am in a much better place with my h today than ever in all that has transpired.

We have a business together and we are getting along so much better than in times past. I am NO longer holding everything against him that I have in the past. What he did was wrong, but I don't have to remind him of that everytime I see him or point that out to him in text, e-mail, verbal. He knows it!

That is why it is best NOT to focus on them, but on yourself and how you need to grow. I often wondered what life lesson was I suppose to learn from all the tragedy. God finally revealed that to me after all these years, but my heart wasn't ready to hear that before. That is what was/is taking so long. All in good timing!

You will make many mistakes along this journey, but pick up some tools along the way to help you get through this most difficult time. Always step back before you respond and ask yourself how is what I am going to say make a differnce or how is it going to be perceived or better yet does it NEED to be said.