you aren't divorced yet...too soon to worry..nothing is finalized!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
My H unfriended me last night on FB. Then he texted me to tell me he that he thought it was better if we didn't interact on FB. I didn't reply, and I haven't interacted with him on FB. I think it's because the OW is one of his friends on there. Plus about a month ago he removed his relationship status, it used to say married, now it's nothing.
He did go over to my friends yesterday. But because a lot of other people ended up going over to their house, not a lot was said. Here is a summary of what was said:
F: You need to stop playing games and make up your mind. And D is not the answer.
H: I believe it is the answer
F: You have no idea, if that is the route you take you are in for a rude awaking. You think it's hard now, you just wait
F's H: If you D, you will regret it
H: I will regret either decision I make
FH: Maybe, but you can't keep doing this. Your kids are suffering and what you are doing is hurting them. D will hurt your kids. But playing these games is hurting too. If your going to D your family then do it, stop playing games. You are going to regret a D
F: You need to stop playing games with your W, she is done with your drama. Make-up your mind, be a man, and do something.
I guess H just went silent after that, and that pretty much ended the convo.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
You have GREAT friends. I love when people say something and don't hide...your husband is going to look back and thank them as well as you. FB is stupid...yes I have a page :-) but it is really stupid. My husband also has an online acct and his relationship status used to be blank but after I moved out he changed it to single :-/ Who cares though...they are acting as children. When my husband text me I am unhappy, I wanted to scream ...WHO CARES...SO WHAT...GROW UP!
I felt like ending the limbo this morning. I felt that I had enough of living in limbo...living at my parents house, not dating, etc. Matter of fact, I just decided that my posts on this site are going to focus on me and not my husband. I am tired of talking about him, talking about what he did, what he said, etc. I just can't take all this focus on him, on us, on the marriage, etc right now. I need a break :-)
Last edited by 4luv; 03/11/1005:38 PM.
Me: 28 H: 32 1st marriage 4 both 1 1/2 year married 2gether for 9 1S: 6months 1stepson: 2yo
mb, isn't getting your friends to argue against D major pursuing? And isn't it hardening his stance and backing him into a corner? The thing you've got going for you is your H's confusion, and I'm concerned that having your advocates argue for him (your H probably sees it that way) creates a sense of urgency in your H, which isn't going to help you.
The limbo is hard, but remember you have a choice to step back from the drama and tone things down a bit. I don't want to argue against the advice you're getting here, but there is no emergency here unless you create one.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
