I just caught up on your thread! Wanted to say a few things:
1)Cautious makes a good point about just being sad as a normal reaction to this traumatic event and that it doesn't mean you have a disorder. But we all react differently to anti Ds and if you get suicidal thoughts (although I read that most of us wish we were dead when this first happens to us) then by all means do not wait for them to disappear-get to thee doc now. (but in the recent posts you sound better)
2)That woman in your office is a huge B!TCH! I think if you responded with something like "You must have a very hard life to find joy in others' misfortune. Excuse me but I have to do something." And walk away.
3)Why are you in a rush to file for D? Have you consider filing for legal separation first?
4)When is your B-day???
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004