LOL, now I'm getting advice on quitting smoking! wink Believe me, it's coming. Right now it's a crutch to get me through, I plan to quit cold turkey by April 1st at the latest.

I wrote her the "dear wife" letter yesterday, but I haven't delivered it. If nothing else it helped get my thoughts in order. I wrote, "You lied to me, you cheated on me, and you left me when I needed you most. These are not the actions of a friend. I can no longer implicitly condone your actions by remaining your friend. You walked out on our friendship for the love and friendship of another man." Etc.

Again, probably won't deliver the actual letter, but it helped get my ducks in a row. For now just giving her the silent treatment. She e-mails me something interesting, I e-mail her back I changed the checking accounts. She texts me about the dogs, I text her back I want my sunglasses out of her car. I think she's still planning on seeing me at the events we planned this weekend and next. I'm not cancelling, but I'm not going. When she calls to see if I'm "okay" I'll give her the speech.