new information from W : NOW WHAT, pro's please .

[hoosiermama]

Women look for leadership, respect, kindness, protection and love in men.

wow. you summed this up so nicely for me--this is what was lacking in my marriage, and led to my resentment and inability to function sexually. he bailed on me a couple of times when I truly needed his protection and support, and I was just unable to get past that, partly because he not only had no remorse about it, he sometimes denied that he ran out. more and more pieces of the puzzle are falling into place in my postmortem examination! and that's important to me.

not that it matters--but the OW gets respect, kindness, and love from xH. the protection and leadership he doesn't have the capacity to provide. and she is a strong, dominant personality. this will be interesting.