Quote: Is it not possible for you to talk to him about your anxieties? I am not good about knowing if it is okay or not, as you know... I DO know that eventually these discussions need to happen for us to heal.
Well..holdingon...I don't know...it hasn't worked particularly well in the past but it could have been bad timing or too much neediness on my part. h indicated a few weeks ago that he was open to a conversation to ease some of my (non-specific-to-FF) fears but we haven't actually done that. There's a part of me that feels generally unskilled at this sort of thing and then there's a part of me that thinks that it's not that I'm unskilled, per se, it's that my approach (direct, feelings oriented, hash it out, etc) just doesn't jibe with h's -- nobody's fault -- just the way it is for now.
I've got time...which is good because I'm in far too much of a "mental state" right now (past few days, etc).
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
