I agree Maynard.
But as I told her to smile and the "she" will be fine.
I am working on my confidence and not worried if she takes it the worng or right way at this point.
I was being happy when I said it..

By the way, I know how you feel about the being in denial comment. I got that too. Its the pits, but we apparently doent listen very well either.

Per Rob, go the opposit direction.

M 43 W 43
S15 S 12 D 10
ILYBNILWY ( Dec 2009)
Sleeping separate rooms April 8 2010.
Sep as of 07/14/2010
W moving out 07/31/2010
No OM confirmed ( yet)