new information from W : NOW WHAT, pro's please .

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@Gucci-

I have done the default position that both you and Rob have recommened .
I have admitted fault, I also told her that I was ashamed of my behavior, and told her I was totally wrong.
I did say, that she will need to learn how to forgive me before we get past this. I may have been wrong in saying that, but its done.
I also told her that if she feels in her heart that she can never can past this, and that she needs to go in a different direction that I understand fully.

I am admitting right now that ( and not proud of it) that I do pursue.
Its been my biggest mistake since this all came down. I am really working hard at not pursuing. Trust me when I say that I have made huge improvements recently.
In the last 2 weeks, this past Saturday was another episode of pursuing..Its got to stop totally, I know..

I really like the Wise comments.

I know that this takes time, you have all given me some great insights, not even my IC has said things like this. When I think carefully of the thoughts presented here, there are some that I beleive will be a tremendous help.

I know that right now my W is not in a good place right now either. As a caring husband I cannot help but care. I want to be there for her to help her through these emotions. I KNOW THAT I CANNOT... need to back off and she needs to work on her self while I work on me, my self esteem and confidence and move in the opposite direction.

Last night I went to a office function and one of the ladies who sat next to me as hitting on me. What a confidence booster that was. I came home later on and was happy and chirpy with my W. Todl her it was a good time and she continued to read her book.

This morning, just before she left for work, I mentioned to her that as the kids are off for march break next week, I was thinking of taking them to a museum. She was at first taken back because she was working most of next week except Thursday and Friday, and she felt that I am not inviting her. She mentioned she would like to go if I made it on those days. I said sure.

As she was leaving I told her to smile today and that she will be fine. I was at a distance so that I wasnt intimidated or anything.
so, is it nice, or the "nice guy syndrom" again..