It will take A LOT of work. I have lived my life like this for 30 years. I think that is why it has been so hard for me to GAL and move forward with what I want for me. I feel like I've never lived like this. I have never let this be my choice----to make choices in my life that are all about what I want. I have been with my H since I was 14. It has only ALWAYS been about US. I thought when you loved someone it wasn't about what you wanted, but about giving that up for the one you loved. I KNOW now that this attitude is what got me HERE. This attitude led to my unhappiness, this led me to the mistakes in my marriage. Making this change----deep within myself will be the real task. All of this GAL and talk of moving forward is EASY. This seems monumental to me, but I know somehow it has to happen.


Me 45
M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08
D 18, D 14, S 12