Why keep talking to him? Just answer his questions and say good bye. The key is to take control of your life back. If H called to ask about the brakes say, I haven't had a chance to. You aren't mean, but you answered the question. If he doesn't say anything else after that, say good bye.
He is not ready to discuss anything else and you shouldn't assume anything. He might want you to get the brakes done because he doesn't want you to get hurt. You have to stop worrying about his motives and just care about you. It is very hard to do when you first start, but once you get the hang of it...it is liberating.
Also don't contact OW. I have done that a few times because I actually know OW personally, and it doesn't end well. She does not care, and if it isn't physical yet, she will think she is doing nothing wrong. Don't hurt yourself more.
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