WHERE DO I GO FROM HERE

[MarkG]

This is where I hope to be, ideally around summertime. Then again we don't pick our timelines....

We started downhill Feb/March 09, got terribly bad in July, separated beginning of Aug (she went straight to OM), got closer in Nov (she left OM), I pursued, her and OM got back together.... Imagine that. I think next time (if there is 1) I might run lol. Ya know, just make her chase me a bit. If I hadn't pursued I think we would have been back together already, maybe yes, maybe no. We just started talking civil again within the last few days.

Sounds to me you're on the right track.