Originally Posted By: newmama
Flowmom did you read my subsequent posts? Future talk about the visitation schedule? Takine my birthday off was not on purpose?
What do you think about that?
No I didn't! How did I miss that post...sorry.

I agree with CW. There's a positive pattern at work here (babysteps and shifting interactions) and a negative one (complacency/OW). What happened today untimately won't make make or break the situation. You've been getting some positive signs, but today was a reminder of the negative pattern (your H talking as if D is going to happen).

I posted a link in one of my threads to posts from happy_again who was a MLC/WAH who reconciled after a 2 year separation (kids involved). His W was a DBing saint, but there were times when she did cry and show her feelings, and those times had a huge impact on him. It did pierce his heart to realize how he was hurting her. I believe that an occasional display of true emotion is a reminder to him that you DO still love him and that even though you're GAL, there is still place for him in your heart...which by this point he shouldn't be taking for granted.

Go easy on yourself. Your H didn't fall in love with you because you were a robot. If he doesn't choose a life with you, it will be HIS loss and HIS fault.


me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4
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