She told me that what I described (not seeing a future with Dan, but unable to picture a Dan-free future, either) was pretty typical for my current situation.
She actually thought it sounded like I HAD moved forward. Because I can't imagine a life with Dan....she said that meant that my mind had accepted that the way he is now we would not be good together and I can see that he is highly unlikely to change...so that is a step forward from just wishing/hoping we would get back together.
So maybe I am further along than I thought. Just have to keep coming up with personal goals for me and for the kids. Just keep swimming....
