Yes, she responded when you started dating, but she knew what she had over the long-term, which was a man who treated her well and was faithful to her. I'm not angry. I do find that people often assume everyone comes from the same relationship background. OIN has stated more than once that for 3 years he did not treat his wife as well as he should have. And the advice just kept coming to be cold to her. I was trying to show that it was not a coincidence that your wife came back because, even if you were being cold in the short-term, she knew she could get her nice guy back.
Everyone's situation is different, and advice should be geared to the individual. Call me angry if you want, I have had a stomachful of the "I'm a man, hear me roar" postings that are all of the boards these days. Many posters advocate treating the wife like a lion, with a whip and a chair, demanding that she dance to his tune. It is demeaning to women who are equal partners in marital relationships.
