Is there anything at all, anything that I can say or do to stop wifes' divorce?
What's frustrating is we know what's wrong with our spouse and can not help only lengthen it.
I've read enough books and been on here to know what not to do.
And I did most of it anyway. I realize now that she was thinking divorce darn near right after the bomb.
For most of it, she has followed mlc checklist other than affair. I know stress and depression are huge in this and she can't see it.
Is there anyway to get to the rational mind?
Shoot I thought about just sending bits of the mlc for dummies checklist with her emails attatched to certain parts.
As for myself, I'm buying a farm house, that is going to take yrs to get right.
I need to get over this anxiety, but this is the dilema, I'm getting divorced by a girl that yeah dang it I still love and yes I'm detached.
I know I was the one for her and I know what got us here.
She hasn't seen it, but I did I went all in to protect her, even sped up the divorce for her, only because a judge was going to hand her her butt over the kids and make her sell the house.
I really am sacrificing all for her, I feel great about myself for that.
She was broken and stressed since I met her, but see now I know the depression she didn't even know she had,it was masked with ocd and she was always "broken" or can't cook, saying was that wrong and now I know she didn't feel worthy of the praise I heaped,too.Her dad was different and distant, and unfortunately we've lived a similar life as she did.
