New here but have been a voyeur

[pearlharbr]

Absolutely right. I know it would have been SO much easier for me to walk away. When things get tough I think about that, that I can easily leave and start a new life on my own and I would be fine with that.

I think it's great that you want to try everything to save your marriage. Just be cautious and go very slowly. I understand if H only has cheated with this one OW. But he has proven that he cannot be trusted around her. Let him now prove that he is finished with her and is recommitted to you and the M through his actions over time.