She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

[Gardener]

Awoken, Wow, that's great. And is this:

the three squeeze "I love you" that we shared for years when he was much younger

universal? I used to always do this, too.
And, hey, a fourteen year old boy - at that age - holding his father's hand and in front of all those people and for that long. is very exceptional at that pull-away-act-cool-no-affection age.

Says a lot about you two. Mostly you.

[Awoken]

The chatty/cheerful mood is just as toxic as the bad stuff because it messes with your head. I hope that more distance will feel better for you Awoken.

Right on there. Just enough to keep the LBS interested.

Thanks you two! Oddly, and really sadly, it's not giving me any hope. I'm just ready to move on. I feel like a very poor db'er. I know many here have hung on for so much longer than I have.

I'm both grieving the end of my M, and feeling optimistic about my future. It's a strange mix.

Of course, give me a few days and I may bounce right back to where I was weeks ago.

[Awoken]

universal? I used to always do this, too.

Shucks, if you were here with me Gardener, I'd squeeze your hand three times too!

I hope you are well.

[givingitmyall]

I'm both grieving the end of my M, and feeling optimistic about my future. It's a strange mix.

And VERY normal.

[flowmom]

It's a big future out there, isn't it?

[Awoken]

I thought I had figured out a way to afford to keep the house. I got a note in the mail for our mortgage lender today. Evidently we have underpaid our taxes this past year, and they now need to raise our monthly payment significantly to cover the difference. The timing is terrible, since I don't see W agreeing to share the difference, even though it's taxes for the past year that we are missing.

Maybe I'm just being to optimistic that she'll accept the offer we've talked about anyway. She may change her mind about everything.

[givingitmyall]

So make a back-up plan. I think she's on the hook for half the taxes but speak to you L.

Hang in there buddy. You can't control what she does.

[flowmom]

I hope that you won't have to make decisions about the home Awoken. You've got enough on your plate. hugs.

[avermont]

Poking in on your thread, Awoken.

Quite the emotional upsy-downsy weekend of events. I don't know how you held it together through all that!

Then mix of emotions sounds quite hard. I guess it would be easier if STBXW were always in her angry moods, right? cheerful and chatty as you are just about to be DONE is hard to bear.

Your kids sound terrific, and you have a wonderful R with them.

Step by step, I guess, right? Each day.

[Awoken]

Hey, thanks Avermont.

I am lucky that my relationship with my kids is so strong. It creates some unusual jealousy in STBXW. She is convinced that I'm setting the kids against her, and I'm doing my best not to.

At this point, I don't know what to do with a weekend with out the roller coaster. It's almost more depressing, since it leaves me alone with my thoughts. However, as you said step by step!

My daughter and I share a story about a King (Solomon?) having a ring engraved with the saying "This too shall pass", which he kept/wore for perspective in both good and bad times. I told it to her once when she was a preteen and having a tough time at school. She has started reminding me both in her own troubles, and in the family's troubles: "this too shall pass".