One other interesting thing - last night after D16's game my MIL had me and the kids come by for dinner. W got off work and I let her know we were over there, and she said that she wasn't coming because she was already home, but that "Its YOUR family now anyway" which I thought was a weird comment.
She is slightly estranged from her own family who think she is nuts and she resents the fact that they don't support what she is doing. I don't necessarily think this is all good since it gives her reasons to resent me, but I am at the point where I just consider it her problem. Her actions are driving their opinions, even though early on when the bomb dropped I offered up a lot of information to them about what was going on about OM, etc. That was a looong time ago, but her family is pretty 'old school' and are disappointed that she isn't putting any effort into the M especially for the kids.
Again, it isn't the best situation, but the opposite would be worse I guess (where her family supported her actions or were indifferent).
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline
