flowmom | need to commit to myself

[flowmom]

OK, what if I sent an email like this:

Hi Flowdad,

Thanks for giving me some time to think about idea of the children staying overnight with you more frequently.

I'd like us to try having the children stay with you 2 nights per 8 day shift for the next month. We can talk about where things stand after a month. Does this work for you?

Flowmom

If he agrees, a followup email:

You mentioned that you'd like to have the children over this Saturday and Sunday night. Perhaps you could email me what nights you'd like to have them for for the next month? We need to create some routines around who feeds them dinner and breakfast when they stay with you too.

Is there any way that I can set up some boundaries around communication? Like it's not OK to spring new info on me then try to bully me into communication and deciding on the spot? That the communication has to be a negotiation, not him telling me what he wants then mowing me down if I am not sure or disagree?