I completely understand. My H typically always gets his way because he is so moody and irritable. It is just so much easier to give in to him than to fight him on anything. Besides his depression (or whatever mood disorder he has)..he was ridiculously spoiled growing up. This has created a disasterous personality cocktail.
Try to have patience. I haven't spoken to my H on the phone since Friday. I spoke to him briefly last night over text message. I cancelled MC with him and he was actually being 'normal' and 'understanding' instead of combative. Not speaking to them makes you feel like you have lost all connection with them...you feel like they are drifting further and further away.
I am trying to have faith in this process..and believe that NC is what is necessary right now. The talking him into his marriage, out of his A, calling him names, R talk...etc was not giving the desired results. Why keep doing something that doesn't work? You really have nothing to lose. Just a note of caution...because you don't hear from him..don't stew and get yourself angry. This will only shine through when you do speak to him...and that is not the impression you want to give him...angry resentful wife. Talk yourself out of being angry!!!...unless you can be an Oscar award winning actress. I am not so skilled with this!!!
