I didn't necessarily mean joint goals between you and your H as a married couple it just seems that if the two of you had some practice with joint goals it might be good.
You had said that you and your H were on the same page about parenting but you also said much of the execution was left up to you and many times your H didn't approve or understand why things went the way they did.
IMO having joint goals in the arena of parenting means not only setting the goals together but executing them together.
It might not do anything for your M but it could at least give your H a new way to approach making joint goals and carrying them out. This may be equally as tough for you as it will require you to release some control to your H in regard to parenting along with you standing firm and not working around him all the time simply because he provides a paycheck.
