Another thing to consider is your H having the children more frequently on a set schedule may help the two of create joint goals.
That would be positive, but I think that it will take more than H getting over his head with responsibilities to make that happen. Something within him would have to shift and I'm not holding my breath for that.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.