My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[nicole8]

Good words of advice.... thanks guys. I will call my MIL. I konw that she loves me and is upset that my husband is thinking divorce. However, she loves him and wants what is best for him and what will make him happy.

I do think she is ignoring the fact that he is still depressed and a divorce isn't really going to solve anything. She is a nurse and it is very interesting to me that she doesn't see that. She is such a smart woman yet when it comes to common sense things she sometimes isn't on the ball. Love her though.

Another reason she may not be saying anything to him is the fact that my husband does also treat her in the same way he does me with his cranky, irritable moods. You just don't feel like saying anything to him, because whatever you say it is wrong and he is going to be pissed for a bit about it.

She knows that he complains of a "lump in his throat" and has even said that it is from anxiety/depression. I wish she would read my book. I don't think I will bring anything up, I am going to go over and act as if I am super busy and on my way to do something with friends. If she asks questions or says anything I will see where it goes.

I don't know if she knows of the OW....but I can only imagine if she did that she would be very upset with her son. Although, she would probably not want to make him mad either because she doesn't want him to not talk to her. The drama gets thicker.

DBURT- I have a question.... please be gentle with me. It really feels like my not contacting the husband, I am ignoring him and now his world is perfect. He is living at his moms and she does everything for him, he can come and go as he chooses and now I am not on his case asking about stuff (or not talking about/ignoring our relationship as he says). Isn't this exactly what he is looking for. I'm just so confused and frustrated. I know I need to not contact him so that he can see what being divorced will be like, but come on. He has the perfect set up over there. It's like he went back to highschool. Maybe his mom could take him shopping for some new school clothes too!

Sorry, just ranting again. It does feel good.