Think my wife is having an MLC, looking for help

[TrentC]

I'll look into that for the more stubborn parts.

I had one panel come off in an entire piece the other night; once I get down to the stubborn-to-remove parts, I'll switch tactics.

[TrentC]

There's really nothing worse than a broke stripper.

How about a dull stripper? *ba-dum-tish*

[TrentC]

Some mental housecleaning:

* My wife and I share various documents with each other on Google Docs; checklists for holiday shopping, date ideas and the like. Yesterday I unshared all of them to keep them to myself. I also took myself off of a couple of similar ones that my wife started.
* When I got home last night, my wife had cleared off the kitchen table and was eating dinner there. She said she didn't know if I was planning to cook for myself, but she cleaned up the kitchen for me anyway.
* Getting Back Together by Bettie Youngs and Masa Goetz is a very good read. It offers much of the same advice we've seen around here (detach from your spouse, learn to rediscover yourself, etc.) and talks about challenges in building a new relationship with your partner.

[TrentC]

More mental housecleaning:

* The bathroom is coming along well; I think I'm done for the weekend, my right arm is killing me!
* I got a line on a job opportunity today; I sent my friend the resume this morning. If this pans out I could be making almost half again what I am making now.
* My wife made a comment the other day that she can't stay up as late as she used to; while I went to bed around 10, she stayed up until almost 1 am but said she was wiped out and slept in the next day.
* The DB coach this weekend said that of the 35 calls she takes a week, the overwhelming pattern she is seeing is boredom; she said that people don't imagine their lives being filled with sitting at home watching TV, or cleaning the house. So the next step would be to create interesting experiences in my life, and give her the option of coming along without making it a necessity.

[TrentC]

Not much in the way of updates to pass on.

Been working with my counselor and doing my 180's and GALing as best I can.

She seems to be responding more positively to me, even though her World of Warcraft playing has not diminished overall. She did ask me to go out to dinner with her on Friday night and we had breakfast out on Saturday, and she seemed to really enjoy herself.

I still have been unable to track down a copy of Understanding the Midlife Crisis, even used. I'm going to look for some of the other books in the recommended reading thread.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

So the next step would be to create interesting experiences in my life, and give her the option of coming along without making it a necessity.

What plans with that Trent?

As for the gaming addiction...it basically took my wife fukcing my best friend to shake me out of it. : ) NOT that I recommend that you do that with her. I am saying however it is a powerful addiction. One she needs to realize, not by you forcing her to realize.

[TrentC]

Yeah, the WoW thing is hers to own. She says she wants to quit, but she always finds a reason to login...

As for the plans to get out, money is a little tight at the moment. But I did go out and play some boardgames with some friends of ours, and am thinking of doing some sightseeing as the weather improves.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Hikes are free.

Building snow men attacking the house/appartment is free.

Lots of free things that are exciting...

wait you said board games?

I thought you wanted exciting.

The coolest board game I ever played:

Illuminati

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Illuminati_(game)

The game of fragile and temporary alliances, misdirection and confusion.

[TrentC]

Hikes are free.

Building snow men attacking the house/appartment is free.

Lots of free things that are exciting...

wait you said board games?

I thought you wanted exciting.

The coolest board game I ever played:

Illuminati

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Illuminati_(game)

The game of fragile and temporary alliances, misdirection and confusion.

I've played Illuminati. As for "exciting", these are the games I played this weekend:

Nodwick
Red November
Unspeakable Words
Dominion

And you're right, hiking and the like is free. That is on my list of things to plan. I've stalled out on the bathroom, though, and I want to get that finished before it falls behind again.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Ahhh and here I thought you meant like monopoly or sorry ...

apologizes, profuse. I did not know you were a fellow geek gamer. : )

Fortress America was also a blast.

Red November seems fun...like a board game version of Paranioa