Struggling with Hope

[ericmsant2]

Lost - Yes # 1 make me feel a lot better. The only issue I have is that she may want to fight it since it has a financial impact for her.
In terms of #2…I agree with you I was actually a little surprised myself. I suspect that the L would use this as leverage in an attempt to keep ME in the house. I would like to remain in my home should we go down the dark path of D. I did not ask for this so if someone needs to move I think it should be her. I'm not being an ass about this but I would like to stay in my home and share this with my kids 50% of the time.

On an aside, W and I had more than a 2 min convo today for the first time in while.

So here is what happened….First off, W was off today but left the house at 5:00 AM. I assume that she went to work but doubt it since her car was not there when I drove by. Either way I detach…detach….detach…okay back to the convo….

She arrived at home at 2pm today (I was working from home today) she seemed happy and poured herself a drink, which I thought was weird but hey…to each its own. Her tone today was very casual. We talked nicely and even joked a bit about a few things. She seemed almost normal. I am still in my detach mode and have NO expectations. All in all a very nice casual convo. She filled me in on her schedule for the next few months. We talked about how I am trying to “back her up” in her new job by taking on the responsibility of the kids. We talked briefly about trying to communicate a schedule – she did not appear to want to elaborate on this so I dropped it. We discussed briefly the issue about me taking my daughter on an overnight…I did not apologize and she did not respond. She appeared to open up for just a sec.

BTW – I did NOT have my weeding ring on today. Also, I know that she suspect that my bonus is coming soon so I am not sure if she is being nice because….

a) She trying to make sure that she sees the bonus check hit the account.
b) It was just a casual convo and that’s it
c) A combo to A & B

For the record I think C 

So my questions to you are….
1) I am try to go dim, so how do you deal with these type of sitch’s…are u nice back (even thought you know that she knows that you know that she is in a A)? I was nice cause’ I’m nice guy…even though I really want to grab her and shack the MLC from her (a little humor)
2) I am working very hard on detaching so in some cases, I really would prefer NOT to talk to her however, this may not be the correct approach. So as I work to detach should I also be serious/distant?

As for reading about MLD - that's all I do these days.

Finally – saw the pics…nice Jeep – I have one myself and it’s getting warmer so the hard top is coming off – Yeah!