I too thought it might be a MLC but honestly I think he is just selfish and lazy. He has always has these signs but has taken it to a whole nother level. He used to at least try - now he just does whatever he wants, whenever he wants. He grew up as an only child and his mom did everythign for him and I think he just continues that now. He just doesn't do anything - he is very unmotivated unless it somehow benefits him directly.
We almost never have sex - the only time it happens is if he is drunk and it literally last two minutes and then he rolls over and goes to sleep (fun times!) I have been tested several times and as I said before he only got blow jobs from the prostitutes with a condomn on.
There is a porn block on his computer because I put it on there. this was before I found DB - but basically he was coming home from work and just looking at porn everyday and I thought maybe our sex life had more of a shot if he wasn't doing that. Also, he used to use those sites to meet and talk to prosistutes. There is not one on my computer because I didnt want to pay extra money for it again (its was $100). I actually dont really have a problem with porn but he took it to anotoher level that I couldnt handle.
He is in counseling now because after everything about the prosistues came out he thought he had a problem but basically the therapoist said on a "sex addiction" scale his is only "problematic" and they therapist feels that he basically likes to do aderanaline type activities and likes excitment. EX: drinking and driving; having an affair; contacting prositutes; doing cocaine. H has said several times "I just want to be excited" I think he felt like that during affair but what I have tried to say to him is that will fade. He doesnt get it.
He is definitely confused and has said so before - I do think he loves me but he is right that there isn't really any passion left. And I blame that on him - I am not the one that doesnt want to have sex, I am not the one that doesnt want to spend time together, I am not the one that doesnt want foreplay. He will sit there and blame me saying "what are we going to do about our sex life" - and I looke at him like, "are you serious?" I want to have sex. I want to "spice it up" (there are emails to the prostitues saying our sex life is boring") I have tried outfits, fetishes, etc - he doesn't respond to it at all.
