How to approach W about OM

[OfficerInNeed]

Lotus,
I thank you for your insight and perspective on this situation. I do understand there are things I can say or do that would be considered pressure and could ultimately push her away farther. One question I had asked and continue to ask myself is "WHat positive can come out of being 'cold' when being cold is what got us here to begin with."

I think my wife deserves a husband who cleans, cooks, makes her lunch, lays her cloths out for her among other things because that is the wife she had always been to me and I never met her half way. She always did for me and I showed no appreciation.

I have gone to counseling to combat my past anger issues. I have spoke to counselor via phone in regards to my insecurity/trust issues. Each can only help so much before I have to put these practices into real situations.

I WILL take a step further and see a therapist. I want the help and I also want to ensure my W I am making positive strides to becoming a better person and even greater husband without telling her so. She will need to see these changes in me her self but she is so blinded by the past she cannot see the progress.

I am taking it one day at a time as she is counting down one day at a time till she leaves.