seperated a year

[talia]

Hangin,
I saw your post for help and thought I would drop in.. Hope that's ok... Some of this might be duplicates... I'm not up to speed...


START NOW... Re-read the book. Make TODAY day 1. You have an opportunity every day to start over and do it right - what ever that means for you. I don't think its ever too late to try!!!

This is hard work and you can't half a$$ it - you CAN'T. It takes real work to save a M and you have to be willing to put in the effort. If not, save yourself the heartache

I would also recommend that you read "Love Must be Tough" - I think you will feel better about how you reacted in the beginning. Also "Boundaries" "After the Affair" and "Not Just Friends" are highly recommended reading for someone in your sitch.

I need to find the link to the thread on boundaries - but you need to get those in place asap. I think your recent dissertation to H is a great start, but you are putting the proverbial cart before the horse.


What do you want out of this? What are your goals? Start the DB process from the beginning - go through the book and do everything you are told to - in order. Only then can you properly establish your plan. Help us help you by listing your goals and what you want from this.

Hang in there - It's never too late!!


T