How to approach W about OM

[OfficerInNeed]

I understand what you mean. My concern is a therapist will tell her to "get out." We're talking years of verbal, mental and emotional abuse and from what I here she went as far as telling people it got physical. If she believes that so much she convinces herself it is real than what therapist is going to say there is hope.

I will take all the time necessary for her to heal but I am not sure how much time I have left until she decides to walk out and selecting the wrong therapist could cause her to walk out sooner.

I WILL be kind, gentle, positive and supporting. She needs that from me. She also needs someone other than me to open up to before she, once again, attaches to the wrong person. Like I said she has developed a friendship with a female co-worker who cheats on her husband with another co-worker of theirs. This is a terrible influence and that vulnerable state my W is in could lead her down the wrong bath further away from me and more importantly morality.