I agree with H4L on the listening and validating. Perhaps H needs to vent about things and you're the unlucky target. I find it a little odd that he sounds so emotionally out of control even though he's seeing the IC regularly.
And again I second what H4L said about it's not your problem to fix. You can make it clear that you'll support him working out his issues but they are his issues. Remember that.
I have been a total slacker about sending the book. I'm so sorry, it just got lost. But I will get to the post office today! And I also have a copy of After the Affair for you too. I had forgotten that we each bought a copy since we were living apart at the time we were doing the exercises. Hopefully it won't take too long to get to you.
In the meantime, don't try to read his mind. I understand that you can tell that he sounded different. But that doesn't mean anything permanent is going to happen. And even if he does say he wants to separate again it won't be the end of the world. H can make his own choices and you will deal with them because you are a strong woman and you can make it through anything.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
