RW huge hugs I have a 22yr old S, when he was 17/18 he drove me to distraction and he sure knew the best ways of turning my key. H and I had always worked together to parent him between us..
Firstly has your H got any treatment for his depression, he sounds like he really needs to if he hasnt. Perhaps leave it for a few days and see if H will talk about a joint plan of action, the things that both of you agree is unacceptable behaviour from S to either of you. Perhaps if you can do this you will both know what is required of the other and then no blame can be attributed and the bonus will be S will get to tow the line when he realises he can play either of you off agaisnt the other!
Good news S's get better well mine has lived to 22 so theres a start lol!
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Once lost but now found and happily married again!
