Excellent OIN, good stuff...

If she would rather go to the movies then let her go... if she invites you, that's great too

Dn't look for a Individual Therapist, make sure it is a Registered Family THerapist or Coules Counsellor sometimes they are called

And yes it is hard to find a good one .. make sure it is NOT some quack psychologist who is just going to diagnose her with depression, give her some prescription, and send her on her way... you DO NOT want THAT

You have the right idea, keep on the lookout for a good one... feel free to post their background and credentials here if you want us to review for you

YOu may be able to get a DB COunsellor from MWD here at her site... they work over the PHONE, but if your wife doens't mind that then you could do that as well...