HI LFW! In a town this size, I don't even have to do the talking! I told her that I appreciate her support and would call them if I needed anything! I am struggling with the thought that sometimes God sends someone your way to help and is this one of those instances? I think there needs to be a book entitled "Recognizing Signs from God for Dummies"!!! Keep in mind that I have only just started going to church...I did not grow up going so maybe I will learn to recognize them at some point! So, I will not worry about it too much! The only pressure he is under right now is from himself!
My L called yesterday to remind me that I will need to send an "answer" to the court within 30 days of when H filed, which he did indeed do...damn
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Perhaps the couple were sent your way not to talk to H, but to provide support to you instead? Why not just go for coffee and then listen to your inner voice on the matter? You don't have to say anything you don't feel comfortable saying, but maybe they were sent to cross paths with you for a reason you don't know yet...
JMHO
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If youre friends speak to H well there is nothing you can do! Some times things happen in a mysterious way a godincidence my friend used to call it. Will try and catch up more later just snuck on quickly!
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Crap, CW, I CANNOT believe he went on and filed! I was really hoping he wouldn't, but sometimes, I guess you have to let things "play out" to see where everything stands afterward.
Don't let this get you down; you hold that head high, Sweetie...if he insists on going on with this, and everything else he's up to...he's going to LOSE the best thing he ever had!
LR is right; if your friends speak to your husband; that is out of your hands. It's unknown whether it will do any good or not.
Diamond Girl also has a point..everything happens for a reason.
The damage, such as it is, can't get much worse..depends on how you look at it.
LOL @ Recognizing Signs from God for Dummies...sorry, can't write that one..sometimes, even I need help recognizing some of the signs from Him, as He is not always crystal clear with me, and I've served Him a LONG time. Some things that are sent from Him, need to be thought, or even talked out to arrive at a clear answer; and I understand you're not that far along, yet, and He does too.
Hang in there, Sweetie; I'm with you, praying for the Lord to help you understand the signs He sends when He sends them.
Hey, we need all the help we can get.
Remember, we each DO have the answers within, we have to learn how to access those; it doesn't come naturally. Sometimes it involves talking things out with someone you trust that can help you sort things out; a sounding board, if you will.
Sometimes when several people are together talking, like here, answers can be found in more than one post.
Catch you later on; you seem to be doing fine, in spite of what's happening.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
CW, that is a tough day. Hugs to you. I hope that you're being really gentle with yourself as you come to terms with this.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Hello CW! Ok, I did not know that..maybe I should have been reading elsewhere on another of your threads?
Well, it's not over until it's over, and you know that.
So, we see what happens next. Everything, as it always is, is in the hands of the Lord, who knows the BIG PICTURE.
Hey, I'm a woman of FAITH, I've seen the Lord do some amazing things in my life and the lives of others, and I KNOW He's more than capable of doing the same for yours. He already has, if you really think about it.
He makes the impossible, possible, and our crooked paths path.
There's STILL an amazing amount of strength that comes off your post, CW..amazing.
But then, you've beaten cancer, and the strength you've gained from that battle will continue to help you through this.
It seems like life is ALWAYS a fight of one sort or another; we just deal, learn and go on..and I know it's not that easy..it never is.
But we do the best we can.
Much love, HB
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
Thanks FM! Yes, I am slowly, slowly coming to terms that this indeed could happen. I know things are not easy for you either and hope you are taking care of yourself too!
Yes HB...I got the papers in the mail...didn't even have the guts to tell me! When I asked him about when/what to tell the kids he got very defensive and said "this is what you expected isn't it" and blamed me because I had told him I would give him time to choose between me and OW but that I wouldn't wait forever! According to him, I made him hurry up and decide. I then told him that if he wasn't sure, then to think some on it and he said he would.
Thanks again for the words of encouragement....
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Needed to call H to make sure he was going to pick up S14 for Dr appt tomorrow so I called and left a vm while he was still at work so I didn't have to talk to him. Told him if he was not going to be able to take him to call and leave me a message as I would have to rearrange my schedule, said thanks and goodbye.
Going to sit down and really look at finances and dividing up of the bills and see where we will be.
Hope to get some paint going this weekend on the walls!
Going to come up with a plan for S14 and getting his school work done and grades up...I think, OK I KNOW, that I have been spending WAY too much time worrying about H and the D. As has been pointed out to me by MANY of you, SEVERAL times, there is NOTHING I can do about that! I am still going to keep reading and coming here as it does help me so much...thankyou!
I still have hope and I still want to believe! A friend of mine told me this....
"I believe that everything happens for a reason. Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together!!!"
Thought it was kinda cool!
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