In all my years, I have never met a woman who was sexually attracted to a pu$$y boy.
Exhibit your testosterone!
It's true.
If being a "nice guy" was all that was required, buying dinners, flowers, gift, being a friend first, always being there, talking about your feelings & emotions would get the girl every time and we know that this isn't the case.
Men who do this with women are labeled as "nice", "he's such a nice guy, any lady will be lucky to have him..." and yet in the same breathe of saying this statement the same women saying this aren't attracted to this kind of man.
Why? Because a "nice guy" like this acts more like a woman than a man.
Women are attracted to Men, Men are attracted to Women. (not including homosexual & lesbian relationships but even if you examine those relationships, you will always notice one partner is more masculine and the other partner is more feminine)
The only point I will comment on is, "how many times do you go to your friends and they beat you up."
If your friends can't beat you up, find yourself some new sparring partners. Always challenge yourself. This is the only life you get. Be the best.
LOL this depends on the context of the situation, I certainly don't hang out with my friends so that I can actually get physically abused, I like my teeth where they are ;-)
But that doesn't mean I won't attempt to practice a rear naked choke or a triangle choke or an arm bar just for $hits and giggles.
If they aren't it's like wanting to date your teacher. Not hot for teacher hot...just NOT hot at all (think of the teacher looking like Ben Stein from Ferris Bueller's day off...your wife probably thinks you look more like him than the romantic partner she wanted).
I'm picturing Castle Anthrax from Monty Python.
I actually have a student this semester named Zoot. Who in the world names there kid, Zoot.
"Oh, wicked, bad, naughty, evil Zoot! Oh, she is a naughty ..."
I'm curious, in your opinion, how would you describe a woman 'should' act?
M55 H55 my D31 H D30 1st met her when she was 25 M 22yrs...2nd for me, 1st for H OW 2005 mother of H daughter, came back to introduce D 1bomb 6/05 2bomb 7/08 3bomb 2/10 moved up north
I have to agree about men and decision making. It used to drive me beyond crazy that my exH could NEVER make a decision. He would say "lets go to dinner". I would say "sounds great, where do you want to go?" Him: I don't care, you pick.
No matter what we did it was always up to me. I can honestly say the best vacation we EVER took was when he chose the place, activities and so on. I got tired of making all the decisions from social activities, finances, household bills, vacations and everything in between.
Of course, once he dropped the bomb his big complaint was we never did anything HE wanted to do (which is BS because I sat through my more hockey, football, baseball games, golf tourneys and concerts than anybody I know, lol!).
I will say pre-bomb, pre me getting sick and obviously pre-affair for nearly a decade my H was very thoughtful. He brought me flowers once per week and was very sweet that way. I will always appreciate that. I just wish he had found some balance.
When I would bring it up to him (EX: him never having an opinion about where we would eat) he would get mad at me and say nothing he did was good enough and I always found a reason for him not to be good enough and it should not matter to me that he liked me to pick our evenings out. So I eventually dropped it because when my H says he wont' change, he means it!
Bottom line is there has to be a balance. I think sometimes men go overboard with the masculine stance. I think sometimes women go overboard with the submissive stance. I don't know the magic formula but I do feel it has to be about balance.
I'm curious, in your opinion, how would you describe a woman 'should' act?
Like a woman! ;-)
I'm a man, so I'll profess to having some knowledge (and I'm still learning and I'm proud to admit that part) on how a man should act.
But if I have to admit my own personal preference, I'm not a fan of "masculine" women if that makes any sense.
ok, just editing this post because I re-read something in KS's last post, something about her feeling a need to discipline her husband to teach him a lesson for not listening, I went through my fair share of that and I will honestly admit that I would never allow that in my life again, I'm an adult and I don't ever want or need to be punished by my partner - that is a great way for me to disconnect and stop listening altogether. That goes for women too, no one (man or woman) should ever be "punished", the term itself implies abuse and mistreatment.
