I have been his friend through out this and have been there for him whenever he needed money or other things. We have not ML in 6 months before that we would see each other every couple of weeks when he would come over to visit the girls and we would end up together.
HinT,
You asked me to stop by and give you my opinion on your sitch. I only have a moment, as I'm kinda buried at work, but I just wanted you to consider: In studying literally THOUSANDS of affairs over the past three years, I have personally never seen this approach work.
Ever. (Not saying that it can't, but I have personally never seen it, and I HAVE seen -- way too many times -- how it harms the emotional health of the betrayed spouse).
If you want to do these things because they are "who you are," and/or you consider them "The Right Thing to Do," then that's fine, but don't expect them to hasten your husband's decision to end his affair, and to re-attract him back to you. It doesn't work.
