I think I'm so tangled in the rope I can't get free.
My e-mail of the day (he copied me on the email to L):
I am the husband of TCBTE. I practice law in X, MO. At my request, TCBTE contacted you so that we could move forward with our divorce outside the scope of a formal court filing. She let me know that she has retained you.
Please let me know what documents and other information you need from me. I will be representing myself, so feel free to contact me directly.
Last edited by ThisCan'tBTheEnd; 03/10/1003:27 PM.
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
I guess I will just share the communication with you all here. I plan to remain silent. My L's response:
Dear Mr. TCBTE,
Yes, TCBTE has retained me. I would like to get a better understanding of how you see this moving forward. Can you please explain what you mean when you say you wish to proceed with your divorce outside of a formal court filing? How do you see this proceeding?
L
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
How did he get the name of your L? I remember you saying he asked for it, but I didn't know you told him. I sure don't like the fact that he is e-mailing your L and trying to manipulate the situation. I guess though if he is set on representing himself then he will have to communicate directly with your L. Hmmm, how can one get divorced without a court filing? Didn't know that it was possible.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Well it is all complicated....I did give hiim the name of my L after he asked the second time......and I'm sure she got a good laugh at the "without a formal court filing" part of his e-mail. All of our expenses are still joint----so I paid the retainer out of joint monies.......She's clear on what I want and how I want to proceed.
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
Funny, he seems to want her to do the work for him. If he is filing then he needs to file, your L isn't going to do it for him.
Maybe she just wants to see if that is what his thinking is. I know BobbiJo over in Surviving got divorced without going to court but she still had to file and have him served. She is in Iowa by the way.
thinking of you, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Yes - I'm sure she's trying to see how he thinks he can do this without filing.....because he will have to file. That is very clear. My L explained to me that no matter what, or how the actual settlement is determined, the first thing that has to happen is that someone has to file---and it won't be me. I know that he wants her to do the work for him.
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
So.......he copies me on e-mail to MY L. My L responds to him and copies me. I'm on the verge of an emotional breakdown......and he e-mails me and asks if he can pitch with D13 tonite right after school, and how to best accomplish that. He has no clue what he's done/doing to me!
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
