My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[nicole8]

I hope lolawar is right that my husband isn't done. I just don't want the divorce process to begin and I think she might be right that he is trying to bait me.

However, my husband is very slow at anything he does, and he has been saying he thinks we need a divorce for the better part of 6 months... (part of the depression I believe is his low motivation level with everything in his life). However, he seems pretty motivated anytime it comes to spending time with the OW. So is he finally getting motivated to file for divorce? Has he had enough? That is the question of my life right now. AHHHH so high school! Does he really even have depression or has he figured out that he can use the depression as an excuse?

Also, still interesting to me is the fact that when I talked to him on Sat night he said that he wasn't coming home for awhile.... So does he realize his fantasy can only last until the OW leaves for the other side of the country? Is he trying to have as much fun in his fantasy as he can with me just waiting?

I really am just so confused, frustrated and fed-up. I do love my husband and our life we have together. I realize our life isn't the most exciting but we have everything, more than most people in this world. I am thankful for that.

I still believe the OW is using my husband for a friend/companion until she leaves....maybe she is leading him on that it can be more. I don't know. But it does make me smile that I believe he is being deceived. Really is she going to carry on a long distance relationship with a man 10 years older who is going through a divorce and lives with his mom. I don't know maybe she will. But I highly doubt it. I am pretty sure school is going to be more important and consume a great deal of her time.

Again, just venting and it does feel so good to vent. I am working hard to do things other than being consumed with thinking of what he is doing. Just really hard.....