Spouse Suffering From Depression

[Lucky11too]

The beginning of the week always seems pretty quiet. H and I have texted back and forth a bit, but quiet overall. Like I said, I had invited H to lunch on Monday to get my license back, but he said maybe another time. He said he ended up sleeping all day, so I was afraid his depression was coming back again. Luckily, he seemed better yesterday. One itteresting though is that I started saying good night almost every night now the last week. On Monday night, we were texting back and forth a bit and then said good night but never heard back from him. I thought I may have overpushed it a bit, so I tried to step back yesterday. So bedtime rolls around and I don't text H and then I get a text from H saying "sleepy time now?" So I guess he does appreciate that I say good night to him. I know it seems small, but sometimes you just have to enjoy the small joys.

I was just thinking back though to one thing from the weekend. We had a brief discussion about OW1 when she texted him that she was off work on Friday so we wouldn't have to worry about running into her. I can't help but to wonder how much they are still in contact though. In some ways they sound on the outs - he had said that he told her he didn't want her working any of his shifts b/c he didn't want to have to fire her and her make it personal. He said again how antagonistic they are to each other and said they were like "frenmies", in how they hate each other but that if she was stranded on the road or something, he would be there for her. hmm, that's not too comforting. I was in love-land during the weekend, but now it's really starting to settle in. I think H has always had a problem about knowing boundaries. He never cheated on me before but he would always be there for "friends in need". I'm glad he has a good enough heart to want to help people, but there are boundaries when it comes to friends of the opposite sex. I hope if we get to the point of MC, we can work on that issue. Hmm, but I just don't get it with OW1. I get OW2 - she was the casebook short term affair of the "it's not how I feel about her but about how she makes me feel" type (luckily OW2 seems to truely by gone - I haven't heard mention of her since and her location accros the coutnry is definitely key!) But OW1, I don't get it. What does H get out of it?

So anyways, today starts H's off work days, so we'll see how much time we get together...