seperated a year

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Thank you I do still want to be his wife. Just had a mini meltdown. I received a phone call from a bill collector saying he put me down for a reference. I texted him the message and asked please don't put me down for references without checking with me first. Then went down hill from there. Told him to give her number to them since she is the one he talks to more.

"I will not be a reference for you."

Then I told him I wouldn't be a back up plan in my own marriage and as long as he is still talking to her we can't work on our marriage. I stated that I have changed the things that bothered him and have tried to be his friend throughout this. Only to have him continue to turn to her.

"I have decided that I do not want to be in an open M. If you will not stop all contact with OW, I do not want you."

I stated unless it involved our girls or his support that there is no reason to talk. I said you can't pretend we are friends. I won't be the third wheel, a marriage is for 2 not 3 people

Too much talking. Let these be your ACTIONS. He'll 'hear' this loudly and clearly when you enforce this boundary.

I feel like I over reacted but I'm at a loss. I guess since I put it out there and stated the boundary of NC I now must go through with it. At this point I don't see what I have to lose.

Dignity. Self respect. Time that you could be healing rather than poking your finger in his eye. You have plenty to lose here. You've already lost him, honey. Sure, he may come back but right now, he is gone. Save yourself.

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