Ken I don't think you hijacked at all (sorry Tal, maybe I am though).
There are several people here who are at around the same stage.
Realize that R with WAS won't be the same if at all, and are starting to get ready to get back into the real world. Friends and Family are great, but deep down people are social creatures and don't want to be alone.
The feelings that go with that are just as hard to deal with as what we've all been thru post bomb.
It's really starting again, leaving something that's been so familiar and comfortable, for over half our lives in some cases - and it's scary.
Just remember there's no timetable and no rush.
H: 44 W: 42 Married: 23 years Bomb: 16/07/2009 PA Confirmed: 16/01/2010 Over it & working on ME: Feb'ish 2010
HI ALL - No Worries - Its never a hijack - I've always said - I'm happy to host the party and anyone can post convo's on here
I'm glad this helps- it helps me to be able to just randomly post how I'm feeling, so anyone else getting a benefit is just icing on the cake!!!
"Dating" is a scary process - but a necessary one if we all end up divorced. My thoughts are I'll get the weird, awkward stuff over while I'm still bound by vows and then when/if I'm not I'll be back in the swing of things!!
The good news in all of this is each day I get just a little better in general - and that's the ultimate goal!
T
ME28,WAH30, M 5YRS, T 7YRS ,OW/ILYBNILY/SEP 9/09 Served with D papers 6/6/10 Current
Spy IM's me and starts talking about his D, My D, My H, and several other people who he has surrounded himself with that are all D.... UGH. I told him he could start a club
My response to him...
"This is going to sound harsh... Can we not talk about divorces -ours or anyone elses. I'm just sick of thinking about it - in general - and every time I do it over shadows all the great things going on in my life"
I went on to gush about all the cool things I have going on and then the conversation just died... Guess he doesn't have much to say when I remove that topic. I think it just shows how little of a basis there really is to this "friendship".....
T
ME28,WAH30, M 5YRS, T 7YRS ,OW/ILYBNILY/SEP 9/09 Served with D papers 6/6/10 Current
In the last 24 hours I have developed a whomper of a cold and discovered that I miss having someone take care of me! I made my own chicken soup last night and snuggled into the couch with the cat. This sucks. I hate being sick. I'm doubling up on the vitamin c and echinacea so hopefully I will get better before I ruin my kidney's!!
ME28,WAH30, M 5YRS, T 7YRS ,OW/ILYBNILY/SEP 9/09 Served with D papers 6/6/10 Current
Something just occurred to me... RARELY did H take care of me when I was sick anyway... I don't know why I was feeling so sorry for myself - I'm not REALLY missing anything.... LOL.... Maybe the only thing is someone to snuggle up to in bed... but I still miss that no matter what... HUH...
labeling feelings....
ME28,WAH30, M 5YRS, T 7YRS ,OW/ILYBNILY/SEP 9/09 Served with D papers 6/6/10 Current
Sorry to hear about your cold. It sucks being sick. I like to be taken care of when I'm sick too. But you're a big girl and I know you can muddle through on your own.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
